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Making Up With An Ex – 3 Must Done First Steps!

January 15th, 2010 by guest-author | No Comments | Filed in Win Back Love

Making up with an ex can be a wondering and exciting time for you it has been a incredibly hurtful time of separation or recently happened and unexpected.

When thinking the possibility of getting back together with an ex, at times you might even have a little voice in the back of your mind that is speaking from time to time, making you to have second thoughts on if you are attempting the right thing.

It is essential to keep in mind that for a while, you may not be on an even keel.Usually, this is because you are emotionally drained and are in a probable depressed unwanted space.

You may be vulnerable, conflicted and deeply confused on what to do. You may be wondering if you should call your ex or just stop by. Hold on, don’t do it yet!

May we strongly recommend that you not react, while feelings of confusion are running high. That is certainly not the best time to make any kind of impulsive, rash, and panic-stricken decisions.

Fortunately, most breakups can be repaired and bonding can begin to heal and restore the relationship to its former glory and beyond.

But, that does not mean that this can occur without work from the both of you. Making up with an ex will take a lot of energy and honesty.

Before you even mentally start to travel that road of making up with an ex here are 3 crucial tips that can help you understand your circumstances with a clear brain. Hopefully, these will help you get to a quality evaluation of your goal.

1.> Take a breather. Cry a little and be honest about the fact that you have broken up. Do not be angry. Keep from saying things that you will only regret later. Sure, you are hurt and in great pain, but it is very important that you show resolve, character and good judgment as you both pass through a difficult time.

2.> Stop, think it through! Evaluate slowly and methodically consider, with an open mind, what was the cause for the break up in the very first place. You should be able to clearly find this reason or reasons that led to the breakup of your relationship. Very often, it is some little thing that escalated and got out of hand.

3.> Read some relationship books, listen to self help cd’s to teach yourself regarding the dynamics of relationship building that are important ingredients to creating a long-term rewarding relationship. It will help to begin formulating a bright, thoughtful and flexible, caring new attitude.

When calling your ex, understand and know that you would like to meet with them and just have a conversation regarding your relationship. Plan to do something relaxing, such as going out for coffee or a walk in the park.

Play, laugh and have easy-going conversation that gives you a chance to express yourself, letting them know how you feel and make time so they can share their thoughts, heart and mind with you. Making up with an ex can energize your whole world. Just be honest that you are doing it for all the right reasons.

Author: Jeff Gadley
Jeff@911BreakUpRepair.com

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If You Want To Win Back Love Forget Your Heart And Use Your Head

April 26th, 2009 by getbackex | No Comments | Filed in Relationship Advice

Need some helpful tips on how to win back your love? You should be ready to be less emotional and be more rational. Thinking clearly and planning ahead can get you where you want to be.

If you’re serious about finding a way to win back love, then it means you’re going to have to start using your head and stop following your heart! It really is that simple.

So let’s look at this! Your heart is no doubt telling you to drop everything, chase down your ex and make them listen to what you have to say, whether they want to or not. You heart has convinced you that all your ex has to do is to hear and understand just how much you miss, love and want them back and your ex will forget about everything that went wrong take you back on the spot! Wrong!

To win back love your head would never tell you to do any of that, instead your head would say back off, get a grip and take your time. Guess which one you should be listening to! Yep, your head!

So, leave your ex alone, don’t call them, don’t try to accidentally bump into them wherever you know they hang out and don’t send them love notes – in short make no attempt whatsoever to contact them.

By contacting them, you’re making yourself appear desperate, a pain in the butt and someone that no right minded person would even want to be around never mind consider dating again. Like a diamond that increases in value the rarer it is, where your ex is concerned, aim to be rare! Let your ex wonder where you are and why they haven’t heard from you and just like that they will want to hear from you and see you.

If you’re stuck with a problem and the first person you would usually call is your ex, then you’re going to have to figure out how to solve that problem yourself. Not only does this enhance your standing with your ex, because they realize that you can cope on your own, but it also enhances your own standing in your own head. If you figure out how to cook that favorite meal that your ex used to cook for you – you realize you can cope! If you figure out how to change the oil in your car – again you realize that you can cope!

The art to win back love is based in rationale and calmness. Only then will your ex give you the time of day. Whatever fire is burning in your heart for your ex, allowing it to run riot and influence you unduly will only be to your detriment. Calm the flames of your passion and instead use the logical! That is what will ultimately help you to win back love.

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