Subscribe RSS FeedAre you a Christian and having problems in your marriage? Do you see yourself on the brink of divorce? Are you looking for solutions to salvage your marriage? Don’t give up, you are not alone.
Often people will think that Christians don’t have problems in their marriages. Sometimes non-Christians seem to think Christians are so lucky that they don’t have marital issues, but then they won’t search for why that is, even though it’s a mistaken perception. Sometimes Christians themselves erroneously think that they are not supposed to have any difficulties in their marriage because of the fact that they are Christian. The fact is, Christians are still human and will still have issues when two people with different mindsets, different thoughts, and different views disagree with each other.
God is the one who ordained the covenant of marriage. It was His idea from the start, and he gave us some pretty good guidelines to do it His way. The problem is we often want to do it our own way because we want to think the ways God said a marriage should be are old-fashioned and unfair to women. This usually comes from a misunderstanding of Ephesians 5:22 where God says, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” This is even a common reason many people give for not being a Christian at all. However, this is usually taken completely out of context, because shortly after that, in verse 25, it states, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave Himself for it.” A husband is supposed to love his wife with a sacrificial love, lovingly giving all of himself to her. He is not supposed to be demanding of her, treat her cruelly, treat her with disrespect, or be demeaning of. If the husband is exhibiting such a love toward his wife, then she should willingly “submit” to his authority over the home, show him loving respect, and willingly come under his sheltering love and care. It’s a give and take and neither the husband nor the wife is to be a dictator or a tyrant. You may be in a struggling Christian marriage or perhaps you’re a non-Christian with marriage troubles seeking a way to save your marriage and prevent the pain of divorce. Things may seem to be falling apart around you and you may be going crazy asking yourself “how can I heal my marriage?” If this describes you, then I have found a very valuable tool to help couples improve their marriage and avoid divorce by doing things God’s way. I wrote a little about it and I’ve linked to it on my blog, where I also have other Christian living articles, devotionals and links.
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